OK, so, here goes, as some of you know, I have been having issues with a stalker at work. She's mentally unbalanced (bi-polar) and has become obsessed with me, she's gone through all types of insane things to get my number and stuff along those lines. (Told someone in the office she lost my number when she never had it to begin with) Anyway, I've known about her for a while and just did my best to avoid her, I just didn't want to acknowledge her or even get involved with her. So I guess Koo-Koo Clock got tired of me not answering my phone or dismissing her when she came by to see me, so she disrupted an event at work and got into an altercation with a co-worker in a threatening manner and just generally acted crazy.

To make a long story short, there's now going to be an "inquiry" into the incident and "appropriate action will be take" So, aside from being embarrassing, it's also a real pain in the ass. The inquiry isn't bothering me per say, because I know I didn't do anything wrong, and maybe this is just me being paranoid, but the person who's been put in charge of the inquiry is someone who in the past I have not always gotten along with. Should I be worried about this??

Tricky Tricky stuff my friend. Something worth looking into. Maybe you are just being a little paranoid but I wouldn't just throw your instincts aside. Maybe there is some foul play going on. She might have some contacts that might not favor your side.(to everyone else in the forum, I know a little about the situation and I know what this girl is capable of). I'd be careful man, and I would trust your instincts. If something is telling you that there is a fishy situation going on, don't deny it. figure out what's going on, and I would be careful if i were you. Maybe i'm just paranoid too, but you know the saying better to be safe then sorry.

Indeed, in fact I told boss man what happened and he said I shouldn't worry about it because he things the powers that be got enough info from other sources to remedy the problem. He said it hadn't been mentioned, so I'm hoping it's over

It's never over. Sorry I'm paranoid.... You'll be fine dude.

No, once again Rico, you're absolutley right....I just received a longwinded, disturbing e-mail from the stalker, here it is , presented in it's entirety: (with the exception of names taken out.)

I have decided. If you do not want to be my friend anymore, I will understand. I have come to the conclusion, that I must be acting crazy, in order for you to totally not answer any of my phone calls or return any of my emails.

I had a major fight with my bf yesterday and almost killed myself over it. This guy is totally in love with me and I have no idea what to do. He's kind of like a psychopath, like myself and well, some guy called me yesterday and he grabbed the phone out of my ear and hurt my hand. I told him to get the fuck out of my place, which he did, because he had to go to work. Anyways, I will be in a fashion show today if you're interested but Im' sure you are very busy that is why you have not responded to me at all.

So, I will know if you do not call or email me or text message me, that you were truly never my real friend. Sure, I know I'm crazy. That's already understood, but I miss talking to you. So many things have happened since we last spoke. My mom is still trying to kill me and my dad, well he just loves screaming at me. I told my bf last night, I dont' need an abusive bf because I already have both an abusive mom and dad so, why do I need one in a bf?

Well, if all goes well, I think this psychopath that I am dating will buy a house for me next year and we'll be engaged. Yes, I know it's crazy since we've only been dating like three months.

Tell me when you have free time, or if you don't care, just don't answer.

OK....WOW....well...first off.....her mom is trying to KILL her??? As you can guess, she's got real problems, but, see...it's the almost killed myself part that is bothering me....If she offs herself, I dont want to have it on my hands because I won't acknowledge this loon....I feel bad for her in a way, she need real psychological help. I really need your help guys, how the hell do I handle this? Right now I'm gonna continue to ignore her, and I know this is a tactic to make me feel like shit, but should I actually DO anything??

No, from a professional stand point...DO NOT DO ANYTHING AT ALL. the only you should do if you decide anything is to report her to the authorities or a mental institution because she is most certainly psychotic and will harm herself or others. You should not feel guilt at all. I highly doubt she will kill herself but if she does it will have nothing to do with you i assure you that. Clearly she is delusional and whether she means these threats or not there is no blood on your hands dude. The best thing you can do is to ignore her. The way she turns from one thing (her bf abusing her and how he's kinda like a psychopath like myself) to her being a fashion show is absurd and is a pretty clear indication to me that she definitely has something psychopathological going on. She's almost forgetting her own threats (for example "I have decided. If you do not want to be my friend anymore, I will understand. I have come to the conclusion, that I must be acting crazy, in order for you to totally not answer any of my phone calls or return any of my emails." then saying "Anyways, I will be in a fashion show today if you're interested but Im' sure you are very busy that is why you have not responded to me at all.") tells me that her mind is out of control. first she says your ignoring her because you dont want to be her friend then she says you ignore her because you are so busy.

Come on dude "her mom is STILL trying to kill her" can we say paranoid schizophrenic. Too bad her mother has not finished the job yet. (sorry was that not a professional way to handle it)

Point being.... I now feel like breaking out my DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders for those of you who aren't psychologists) and looking up her symptoms to diagnose her. Actually I think I will. A diagnosis will definitely help out in giving advice on how to handle the situation. But as for now... IGNORE HER AT ALL COSTS. do not respond to this email or anything else she might throw your way.

There could be many things wrong with her dude but as long as you ignore her nothing can be put on you. If i can be blunt and off the record for a moment. Keep the FUCK away from her in any way shape or form.

In fact, make sure you save that email. you never know when you might need it. Save it, Lock it, whatever you have to do but im serious keep it just in case. I'll see what else I can come up with or if I can figure out another course of action but the severity of the situation and how its developing... you need to stay away.

Wow, Rico, that why your the Hero of Planet P! Thanks, I cannot begin to tell you how much that helps and puts things in perspective for me. I hadn't even noticed the jumping around thing, come to think of it, she does that all the time when she talks, it's like one big diarrhea mouth rant, the only other person I know who does that is my paranoid schizophrenic neighbor when she goes off her meds. I will definitely stay away, the only reason I was contemplating calling her back was because I wanted to tell her off, but your right, I'm just gonna ignore her at all costs.